Tips for not being so nervous?

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Tips for not being so nervous?
So I am in a conducting class and we have to conduct in front of the class for like measures and I get sooooo nervous, my whole body shakes, especially my hands and my heart beats so fast! Its like I cant control it and i dont know how to stop it. I memorize the measures and can do them perfectly so its not about doing well at all. Some people say to imagine silly things about the people in front of you but its just not that easy.... please help!

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I must say, I understand completely how you feel! There is nothing more frustrating than having to perform something you know you have worked hard to master in front of an audience, while your body visibly shows signs of nervousness like your uncontrollable shaking. I wish there was an easy answer for you! While it is frustrating and it may feel like it is something that might stifle your talent and abilities when it comes to conducting, the visible signs of nervousness can be overcome and controlled. However, it is going to take a great deal of experimenting, exploring and and keeping an open mind.brbrThere are several methods for you to cope with your performance anxiety and if you Goggle quothow to deal with performance anxietyquot or strategies to deal with nervousness in stage performance andor public speakingquot you will find countless examples. The best way for you to discover which method is most appropriate for you, is simply to experiment with each one of them, starting with the one you feel is something you can do with ease, that will not distract you from your well rehearsed material and conducting.brbrAlso, do you have a mentor in music, perhaps a teacher or fellow student that has experienced anxiety when performing? Please, do not be afraid to mention your anxiety to anyone you trust, in fact, you will probably be surprised at how many people have and still do deal with performance anxiety issues. They can be extremely valuable resources just by sharing some of their own experiences andor methods that have helped them to cope with performance anxiety.brbrNot that this even appears to be an issue for you, but there are some people who suffer from GAD General Anxiety Disorder. GAD is basically an anxiety disorder that causes a person to experience more severe physical and mental reactions to anxiety i.e. trembling, rapid heart rate, dry mouth, dizziness, etc. If you find that you are experiencing increased anxiety outside of your performance anxiety, then you may want to talk with your parents about it so that they can provide you with the appropriate resources before it becomes something that interferes with not only your conducting but with other areas of your life.brbrI am hopeful that you will find a way to help you cope with the normal performance anxiety you are experiencing. Again, I know firsthand how difficult it is to work so hard at perfecting your performance and having to worry about how your body is going to act during that performance. Good luck to you!

Tips for not being so nervous?

Question

Tips for not being so nervous?
So I am in a conducting class and we have to conduct in front of the class for like measures and I get sooooo nervous, my whole body shakes, especially my hands and my heart beats so fast! Its like I cant control it and i dont know how to stop it. I memorize the measures and can do them perfectly so its not about doing well at all. Some people say to imagine silly things about the people in front of you but its just not that easy.... please help!

Answer

I must say, I understand completely how you feel! There is nothing more frustrating than having to perform something you know you have worked hard to master in front of an audience, while your body visibly shows signs of nervousness like your uncontrollable shaking. I wish there was an easy answer for you! While it is frustrating and it may feel like it is something that might stifle your talent and abilities when it comes to conducting, the visible signs of nervousness can be overcome and controlled. However, it is going to take a great deal of experimenting, exploring and and keeping an open mind.brbrThere are several methods for you to cope with your performance anxiety and if you Goggle quothow to deal with performance anxietyquot or strategies to deal with nervousness in stage performance andor public speakingquot you will find countless examples. The best way for you to discover which method is most appropriate for you, is simply to experiment with each one of them, starting with the one you feel is something you can do with ease, that will not distract you from your well rehearsed material and conducting.brbrAlso, do you have a mentor in music, perhaps a teacher or fellow student that has experienced anxiety when performing? Please, do not be afraid to mention your anxiety to anyone you trust, in fact, you will probably be surprised at how many people have and still do deal with performance anxiety issues. They can be extremely valuable resources just by sharing some of their own experiences andor methods that have helped them to cope with performance anxiety.brbrNot that this even appears to be an issue for you, but there are some people who suffer from GAD General Anxiety Disorder. GAD is basically an anxiety disorder that causes a person to experience more severe physical and mental reactions to anxiety i.e. trembling, rapid heart rate, dry mouth, dizziness, etc. If you find that you are experiencing increased anxiety outside of your performance anxiety, then you may want to talk with your parents about it so that they can provide you with the appropriate resources before it becomes something that interferes with not only your conducting but with other areas of your life.brbrI am hopeful that you will find a way to help you cope with the normal performance anxiety you are experiencing. Again, I know firsthand how difficult it is to work so hard at perfecting your performance and having to worry about how your body is going to act during that performance. Good luck to you!

Tips for not being so nervous?

Question

Tips for not being so nervous?
So I am in a conducting class and we have to conduct in front of the class for like measures and I get sooooo nervous, my whole body shakes, especially my hands and my heart beats so fast! Its like I cant control it and i dont know how to stop it. I memorize the measures and can do them perfectly so its not about doing well at all. Some people say to imagine silly things about the people in front of you but its just not that easy.... please help!

Answer

I must say, I understand completely how you feel! There is nothing more frustrating than having to perform something you know you have worked hard to master in front of an audience, while your body visibly shows signs of nervousness like your uncontrollable shaking. I wish there was an easy answer for you! While it is frustrating and it may feel like it is something that might stifle your talent and abilities when it comes to conducting, the visible signs of nervousness can be overcome and controlled. However, it is going to take a great deal of experimenting, exploring and and keeping an open mind.brbrThere are several methods for you to cope with your performance anxiety and if you Goggle quothow to deal with performance anxietyquot or strategies to deal with nervousness in stage performance andor public speakingquot you will find countless examples. The best way for you to discover which method is most appropriate for you, is simply to experiment with each one of them, starting with the one you feel is something you can do with ease, that will not distract you from your well rehearsed material and conducting.brbrAlso, do you have a mentor in music, perhaps a teacher or fellow student that has experienced anxiety when performing? Please, do not be afraid to mention your anxiety to anyone you trust, in fact, you will probably be surprised at how many people have and still do deal with performance anxiety issues. They can be extremely valuable resources just by sharing some of their own experiences andor methods that have helped them to cope with performance anxiety.brbrNot that this even appears to be an issue for you, but there are some people who suffer from GAD General Anxiety Disorder. GAD is basically an anxiety disorder that causes a person to experience more severe physical and mental reactions to anxiety i.e. trembling, rapid heart rate, dry mouth, dizziness, etc. If you find that you are experiencing increased anxiety outside of your performance anxiety, then you may want to talk with your parents about it so that they can provide you with the appropriate resources before it becomes something that interferes with not only your conducting but with other areas of your life.brbrI am hopeful that you will find a way to help you cope with the normal performance anxiety you are experiencing. Again, I know firsthand how difficult it is to work so hard at perfecting your performance and having to worry about how your body is going to act during that performance. Good luck to you!

Are you expressing the change you wish to see in the world?

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Are you expressing the change you wish to see in the world?
Or does the world change you?

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yes and every day I am different and new in some way and the world looks different and new in some way, but its not something I struggle with this change its just something thats unfolding like a novel Ive written and forgotten yet I live the story out and its a mystery, a thriller, an adventure, a romance, an autobiogaphy.brThe world is as I am and yet I have a relationship with the world and sometimes I am the world, so yes, the world changes me as well.brThe world is a beautiful illustration that means something very important and we constantly have to choose which me, which world, in response to the everchanging illustration if we are to learn the lessons.

Are you a GOOD PERSON?

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Are you a GOOD PERSON?
Please be honest.

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Ummm, how good should I be? I mean, Im a good Christian, I do many things that I dont have to do, to help others, I love people in general, unless they treat me cruel, then I leave them alone. I love animals, I give tithes to various churches and organizations...is that enough?, cause Im running out of stuff. gt Just kidding. Im a good listener, adviser when people want to listen I make jokes...listen to jokes, no matter how silly...I love children, and I dearly love my grandchildren Ive got brIs this good enough? I love God, I love angels and so on and so forth. I never hurt people, and if I say something they dont like I apologize. I gave up the best paying job I ever had to care for my mom, before she passed away. I only had months with her, but I took good care of her. And no, I couldnt get that job back. I just loved her so much, that I wanted to give back something to her for raising me so well. I couldnt think of anything better than love and care as she gave me, when I was sick.

Are you AFRAID of the DARK.........or the Fact that you are ALONE in the DARK.....?

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Are you AFRAID of the DARK.........or the Fact that you are ALONE in the DARK.....?
is the DARKNESS or the ISOLATION that we Fear.....

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Im afraid that I am NOT alone in the dark there are many things in this world that cannot be explained grin. I think it is the unknown that we fear... brbrThis question could be taken so many ways... the Unknown is anything that is not in our experience, though it may be in someone elses. Isolation is truly rare... there is always some sphere of influence, some touching of SOMETHING, be it Creator, another human, a pet... the living Earth.brbrI think, my friend, it is something else entirely... I feel it is the fear of taking chances... the fear of DOING and not being able to UNDO. That is the unknown that most people have the most difficult time with.brbrSomeones company may make a difference... it usually does. Now, before I offer you my hand to help you through the darkness, I have a few questions for you What do you need from the dark? What gift are you seeking there? Is it something you must do on your own? Will the answers make sense if I am by your side? Do you want to walk the path alone?brbrThe hand is there if you need it.